Dear Liz: How do you balance married life & being an influencer?

Dear Liz,

How do you balance married life & being an influencer?

-Lux Queen

Dear Lux Queen,

Being a blogger/influencer and balancing your married life can be very difficult. I say difficult because it really depends on the perspective your husband/significant other has about what you do on social media.

Before I started my journey on social media, we talked about it several times and really talked about what it would take to run a blog. I think communication is so important because you want to make sure you are on the same page.

Once you are on the same page and you have the same vision everything falls into place.

My husband understands the importance of creating content because he knows I need to post consistently to keep an engaged following. He encourages me to attend blogger events because he wants me to network and meet other bloggers in the industry. When he sees me on my phone he knows I’m engaging with my followers and actually sees how it can make a difference.

Now, yes he understands all of this but of course sometimes he could become frustrated.  The only difference is that frustration is only momentarily because he knows the end game.

I try to balance it out by trying to limit content creation on just one day. This means we both pick one day where the goal is take as many pictures as we can. All the other days when we’re out I’m not bugging for pictures because we have a dedicated day for this.

When I get invitations to blogger events, I always discuss with him first and find out if we have any plans. I don’t tell him I’m going, we discuss it together and weigh out whether I should go.

Being on my phone to engage is also something I try to schedule. When we’re out having dinner or on a date I try to keep my phone away or limit the time to only catching stories. Also, if I catch my self just scrolling through the gram I put it away because at that point I’m not even engaging. If my husband is working on his laptop then I take the time to work on Instagram too.

My advice:

I want you to first sit down and write down why you are a blogger/influencer. Is this just a hobby for you or is it a business?

It’s important for you to do some self-reflection because often times it can open up your eyes on what others may see.

Figure out a strategic game plan for your blog  and write down goals with deadlines. As soon as you start to take yourself seriously, you will see that others will too.

Now the fun part, talk to your husband about your goals & vision for your blog and most importantly how he can support you. Also get his take on it and ask him his perspective. Once you see the parts that he doesn’t understand or that he doesn’t like you can talk it out. The financial aspect is also very important, you must discuss if financially your influencer career could be supported.

Marriage is about communication & compromise and at the end of the day you need to include your husband in all of your plans so he is invested.

I hope that after your conversation he can see what it means to you and how moving forward you can balance your married life with being an influencer/blogger.

As usual thank you for stopping by!

It’s been real.

 

xoxo,

 

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