October 4, 2018
Dear Liz,
I love my husband and have been with him for a very long time. As of recently, things in the bedroom have not been as exciting.
How can I spice things up?
-Married Babe
Dear Married babe,
First of all I would like to say, thank you for writing in this question. I was waiting for someone to ask me something that may be a little taboo or hard to talk about.
Now before I sound off and give you some advice, I want to say that although I am happily married we’ve only been married for three years. I say this because there might be some married women out there thinking, what does she know? Some people still count year 3 as that newlywed stage which in all honesty I think is true.
However, if you continue to do the same thing over and over again, it can get boring.
This past week I also discussed “Sex,” in my bible study group. OMG sex & bible study in one sentence?? LOL
We are currently reading the book Girl wash your face by Rachel Hollis and there is literally a whole chapter on SEX. I think she brings up some good points and I’ll be including some in my advice to you!
So, lets spice things up!
My advice to you:
1) Talk to your husband how you are feeling
What?! Can’t you just give me some advice, it gets better, and we don’t have to talk about this awkward topic. I could do that but it’s very important that you communicate with your husband, how you are feeling, and how he might be feeling. Once everything is out in the open you will probably come up with tons of way to spice it up.
2) Change your mindset
Rachel Hollis talks about this in her book and I thought it was very true. You need to think of sex as something exciting rather than a chore. It shouldn’t be something you are quickly trying to get through, like something you can check off on your to do list. It should be something you look forward too. As soon as you change your mindset your whole attitude on making love with your husband will change, for the better.
3) Spice things up through out the day
Sometimes after a long day of work you both can be very tired and by the time you get home you are in no mood to do anything. So spark that interest early, sending him some lovely messages throughout the day LOL. I will let your imagination wonder and you can figure it out. By the time both of you guys see each other that tension from the whole day is about to BLOW UP.
4) Find what sets you off
Yes, I feel like you have to know yourself first. There is tons of thing that I can list but I don’t want to limit your thoughts to those being the only things around. Take time, reflect, and figure it out what turns you on. In the end, when you are turned on it will only only make things with your husband that much more exciting.
5) Eat a light Dinner
Yes, I just said that LOL. Sometimes you plan it in your head but your heavy dinner/meal says other wise. The only reason why I say this is because I feel good when my body feels good. If I’m super full, have a stomach ache, or even super gassy you best believe I’m not enjoying anything. So take it however you want, but for me I wanna feel good. I am sure several wives can agree that icky feeling after dinner and it can ruin your mood.
Well guys those are my 5 tips that I can give you! The 1st tip is probably the most important and there is no better advice then it coming straight from your spouse. So many things can be revealed and you start to see things differently.
I am glad someone asked this and I wanted to answer it in a tasteful yet insightful way.
It’s been real.
XOXO,
Liz-Laugh-Love
